What True Success Means to Me

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Success for me has always been defined by numbers. The number on the scale could make or break my entire day. The number of calories written in my endless food logs had to be under a certain amount. Success was eating using measuring cups and meticulously tracking every single calorie I consumed. The number of days that I worked out in the gym. The number of reps and the amount of weight used drove me on to push and push (or maybe punish?) myself. The number on the tags of my clothes kept me motivated- the endless striving for that elusive size 4 always calling my name. The number of miles ran in a week and the total number on my Nike Fuel Band.

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My ideal body 4 years ago- still wasn’t happy.

Numbers pushed me on toward my version of being successful, or more accurately, being in control. As long as I lived my life according to the numbers, I would be successful. It took me about 6 years of this madness to realize that even though I counted all of these numbers, I still didn’t feel successful. I achieved all of the things you are told you need to achieve to be successful, yet I kept feeling farther and farther from it. I was never satisfied with my body or performance- I always wanted more.

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It took me a long time to redefine what success looks like for ME. I discovered that success really means listening to my body and acting accordingly. A successful day is looking in the mirror and appreciating what I see instead of picking it apart. It means eating when I am hungry and stopping when I am satisfied. It means being intentional with movement and doing that which makes me feel good. It means creating margin in my life and prioritizing sleep. It means continuing to learn more about myself and how I can grow, not change. 

For me, these are the real measures of success. I don’t live by buzzwords like “healthy” or “fit”. I simply seek to live a life full of meaning, intention and movement. My motivation comes from finding joy in everyday rituals and continuing to be the best version of myself that I can. True success is loving myself, my family, friends and those around me. 

What does true success look like for you? What will it take for you to be truly successful??

Product Review: Kettle and Fire Bone Broth

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It’s no secret that I love bone broth. I love the thick salty taste of it on a cold morning or dark day. It can lift your spirits and help heal your body. The thing I don’t like about it is the actual making of it. 

I buy bones for bone broth from Whole Foods or New Seasons, which can be spendy. I usually pay about $10 for 2 pounds of bones which makes one batch (usually 2 large mason jars full). The organic carrots, onions and celery also add up to about $5 or more. Then there’s the spices and vinegar. So, when all is said and done, I spend about $15-$20 on one batch of broth- not to mention the cost of my time in the prep and clean up of it. 

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So when I heard about Kettle and Fire Bone Broth, I knew I had to give it a try! For about $12, you can get delicious bone broth sent right to your door! As a busy work at home mom, this is a huge deal for me! 

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I really like the ease and convenience of this bone broth and it’s waaaay better than the Pacific brand in stores. The only thing I wasn’t a huge fan of was the lack of salt and vinegar taste. If you know me at all, you know that I loooooove salt, so I am sure that this is probably salty enough for most people out there. If not, do what I did, and add a little salt and ACV to it. Voila! 

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I really enjoyed the spices that they used like thyme, rosemary and bay leaves. I haven’t put those in my broth before and I really enjoyed the light flavor that they added. 

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I really like supporting small businesses over corporate any chance I have, so I will definitely be using this brand again! Head over to their site and take a look! You can also find it on Thrive Market too. 

No More Identity Crisis

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I have been on this health, wellness and fitness journey for just over a decade now. It’s been a wild ride full of diets, detoxes and DVDs. For the first part of my journey, I lived my life according to someone elses rules. Whether it was Jillian Michael’s and her 30 Day Shred Diet or counting every single calorie that went into my mouth (or didn’t because I was too close to my allotted amount for the day). I had to follow something because I couldn’t be trusted to do it on my own. I couldn’t trust myself to listen to my own body’s needs- I had to rely on someone elses one-size-fits-all program.

For years I did workouts from books and DVDs. I had to have some sort of outline or workout routine because I couldn’t trust my body to tell me how it wanted to move. I thought that unless there was sweat pouring from me that the exercises I was doing wouldn’t be “effective”. I worked out to get lean and lose fat. I was smart enough to know that weight loss was just a term the Industry used to drive the sales of products that I bought, but that really what I wanted was a lower body fat percentage.

Finally, about four years ago, I decided I was sick and tired of living according to rules and labels. I started ditching labels like “Paleo” or “clean eating”. I gave away my Diet books and DVD’s (Ok, I occasionally use my 30 Day Shred when my kiddo is sick and I am stuck at home). I quit using site like Livestrong, My Fitness Pal and Fat Secret. I stopped using a heart rate monitor and burned all of my Shape Magazines (ok, I didn’t really burn them, but definitely tossed them into the recycling).

I started to think about what it would be like to listen to my body’s cues as far as what to eat and how to move. The idea scared me to death. I felt like I would fail and gain a bunch of weight and lose complete control. I had taken on a false identity as a Dieter and without the fixed rope of calories and “forbidden” foods, that I would fall to my death.

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But you know what? It has been four years of learning more than I ever thought possible! I have discovered a place of balance where formally no such thing existed. I have learned to trust my body and follow its lead when it comes to nourishment and fuel. I move in such a way that motivates me to challenge myself.

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For the first time in my life, I am working with my body, not against it. I look for ways to learn and grow. I love eating out now when I used to literally be terrified of it. I am no longer tempted by and guilted into eating foods that I know will not nourish me. I eat things that taste delicious and that give me energy. I cherish things like sleep and low stress levels and I work hard to manage both.

I trust myself! I am capable! I am strong and confident! I am beautiful! I look in the mirror (most days) and love what I see. This didn’t happen overnight, but over years and it is still a moment by moment process that I live. I seek out opportunities to move and be and thrive. I have a body and life that I love!

I want to invite you to find freedom from restriction. To embrace your true identity as a strong, beautiful, capable, trustworthy person. To rid yourself of the fixed rope that holds you hostage to fixes like calorie counting, exhausting exercise, meal planning and someone elses voice telling you what you “should” be doing and living. I invite you to discover body trust and to learn to listen to the small inner voice that longs to guide you and lead you to a place where you instinctively do what is best for you. You get to define what “healthy” and “fit” means. Now is your time to shine and discover a new you!

What will it take for you to ditch the rules and embrace freedom??

No More Size Focused Goals

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As a former dieter, it has been a challenge for me to learn how to set goals that did not involve a size or number. I have written before about celebrating the goals I achieve, not the pounds I do or do not lose. I see a lot of my clients struggle with this as well. We have been trained to set goals that involve a number of calories, grams, pounds, inches or clothing size. 

I find these types of goals to be destructive as they are laden with false hope and unrealistic expectations. Sooo many new clients say things like “I want to lose 10-20 pounds in x number of weeks”. I have been in the business long enough to know that not only is it usually impossible (read: hormonal imbalance, gaining muscle, body types, disordered eating, stress, not enough sleep, not enough margin etc) but it is damaging to your relationship with your body, mind and soul. 

It breaks my heart that this is what it has come to. That goals revolve around an image of what “health” or “fitness” should look like. A lot of people (not just women) come to me with pictures of what they want to look like and it is hard to have the conversation that starts with adjusting expectations from weight loss to improving health- not only that, but also discovering what health looks like on an individual level too. 

So, I wanted to take a minute and share the current goals that I have set to improve my health, performance and lifestyle in hopes that you might be inspired to think of things that you would like to see improve in your own life.  

Here are the goals I have set for myself starting today:

-Improve sleep by being in bed by 10, no electronics after 9.

-Improve Digestion by cutting out grains (except quinoa), dairy, white starch, refined sugar, alcohol- at home, and not eating after dinner.

-Exercise-HIIT 2x/week, heavy lifting 1x/week, yoga/stretching 3x/week and achieve these body weight goals*:
Handstand from Dolphin pose
Stand on body ball (this is sooo challenging! I shake like a leaf!!)
Do 20 push ups in a row with good form
Complete 5 chin-ups in a row (2 more to go!!!)
Do 5 pistol squats on each side
Plank on elbows for 5 minutes

-Meditate/pray 5min/day

-Walk 20 min/day even if it’s raining

*= But also balancing this with grace if I do not feel up to it or other things get in the way (ie: baby getting sick).

What goals have you set for yourself that don’t involve a size or weight??

Giving Up Being “Healthy”.

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I’m about a decade into my “body love” process. I use the word process because “journey” (which I often use,  as is on the shirt)  implies a destination or an ending. I am finding that each day brings about new challenges, enlightenments and successes that require adaptation which is indicative of a process rather than journey. But, to each his own 😉  

One of the recent enlightenments I have encountered is with the word “healthy”. My version of that has shifted vastly in the past decade. It’s gone from cutting out all sugar, to counting calories, to controlling grams of carbs and fats, to doing “clean eating”, to living Paleo…the list goes on and on. Each one of those was, in my mind, the healthiest thing I could do for myself. 

My obsession with being healthy came as a result of a number of things, one of which was watching my mom succumb to cancer at age 44. She was overweight, stressed, ate junk food and never exercised and that is a big part of why the cancer won. This motivated me in a big way to be healthier to try and stack the deck in my favor. I realize now that “healthy” or not, I can still get cancer (duh Kim). That reality has helped me shift my mindset greatly.

I have allowed the word healthy to dictate my choices about food, exercise and lifestyle. In doing that, I have lost the ability to trust my body to do what is healthiest for me. I think things like “I have to eat protein with this meal.” “I have to do at least one heavy lifting set each week.” “I have to do better at managing my stress.” “I will be healthier if I do yoga and sprint each week.” I do and think all of this in the name of being “healthy”. 

I have eaten more than I need to because the food was “healthy” food. I worked out when I didn’t feel like or I was tired because exercise is “healthy”. I’ve spent hundreds of dollars on supplements to make my body more “healthy”. And I’ve used waaaaay too much time listening to podcasts and reading books about pursuing “health”.

I realize now (yes, I am a little late to the party) that it is not all about being healthy. (My friends, family members and clients are all sitting there reading this with eyes wide and mouths open). Yes, health is important and something I would like to have, but first I need to redefine what health means FOR ME. Not what experts or culture says and not what that ripped man/woman on Pinterest or Instagram says. 

I want to learn to listen to the little voice inside that tells me when to eat and how much. I want to trust the prompts that say move this way and this hard. I want to feel the peace that comes from sitting still and processing through the struggles I face. And I want to trust that when I crave something, I will have the ability to do what is “healthy” and right for my body and not just ignore it or indulge. 

I want to trust that the image in the mirror is intuitively seeking out what is best for me- whether it is in a season of chaos or calm, busyness or rest, feast or famine. That is the kind of body trust and self-love I want to find in this process of learning, changing and growing. 

What does “healthy” look like for you at this point in your process?   

I Hate Quick Fixes (#myjourney)

**Disclaimer: This could potentially piss some people off and for that I do not apologize. This is my blog and I have freedom to express what I believe to be true. And if I can help save even one person from one more “quick fix” then this post is a success. I do acknowledge that some of the Quick Fixes have been a part of my story and yours and if that’s you, then I hope you see light at the end of the tunnel**

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I am soooo sick and tired of all of the “Quick fixes” out there. The detoxes. The cleanses. The 21 day Sugar “detoxes”. The 21 Day Fixes. The 30 minute DVDs. 

I am sick to death of the products. The portion size containers. The wraps. The pills. The powders (except for the uh-mazing Vero Pure Whey and Collagen Protein, of course). The DVDs. The Bars. The f-ing shakes. (You cannot drink your way through life, people!). 

I am over the ridiculously “fit” people selling all of this shit. The over developed muscles. The body oil. The spray tans. The professionally done hair and make up. The tight (oh soooo tight) workout clothes all.the.time.

I’m fed up with the “one size fits all” approach (even though they all claim to be individualized). The pretty packaging. The multi-level marketing (seriously, if I hear from ONE MORE Beach Body “health coach” I am going to scream!). 

I’m so over it you guys. It’s not about unsustainable practices. It’s about rebuilding trust with your body- and that takes time. A looooong time. The trust that has been broken by believing that you are not enough. That you have to be “healthy” or “fit” or “strong” or God forbid “skinny”. That trust has to be rebuilt by finding the voice inside that says “you are enough and you are loveable”. 

That voice that  has been buried under magazine articles, workout classes, diets and restriction. At least it was for me. In my never ceasing, always striving search for acceptance, I lost the intuitive voice inside me that helped me do what was right for me. I listened to “everyone else” and went every which way. 

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It has been quite a….journey. That is what it’s been. A long, hard, enlightening process of finding what works for me. How much food to eat and when to eat it. How to exercise and how hard to go after it. How to rest and savor little moments. And yes, quick fixes have been a part of my journey, but I now see how they were more destructive than I realized. 

It has been a long journey and I still have yet to arrive at my final destination. I am not sure I ever will (or even want to). Everyday I learn something new about myself and how to be my best self. How to restore trust with myself that was once lost. 

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Do you like my lav mic? lol, I forgot to take it off for pictures. 

My passionate desire in life is to help you in your journey. To walk along side you as you rebuild trust and re-discover yourself-to find what makes you YOU. I love being a small part of that process!! 

So, I post these pictures today not to celebrate a new diet, a new workout routine or cleanse. I post them to celebrate a woman who has reclaimed body trust and seeks to find the voice inside that encourages, promotes, challenges and prompts me. To celebrate the discovery of myself and to inspire you to do the same. 

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Hugs to you, dear friend, as you walk along your journey. 

I would love it if you would share a picture of your journey, whatever that looks like for you, on our Rebooted Body Facebook Page with the hashtag #myjourney. Let’s celebrate the journey! 

What’s in My Fridge (And Pantry!)

The refrigerator. 

So many emotions in a single word that refers to an appliance. Amiright??

I like to think that people out there wonder what on earth is in my fridge. I know no one gives a rats hiney, but humor me. 

Here are some of my favorite things in my fridge (and pantry- bonus!). 

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Mashed sweet potatoes!! I love putting mayo on these! 

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My delicious and easy Avocado Oil Mayo. I put it on #allthethings

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Trader Joes has this new Grass-Fed yogurt….it tastes good, but not quite as good as Maple Hill, which will always have my heart.

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I loooove these Power Greens from Costco! Less than $5 for organic greens that are soft and not bitter.

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I know the color of this is offensive, but it tastes amazing! I blanched fresh tomatoes, cooked them with bay leaves and basil and blended it with coconut milk to make a tomato bisque. It’s perfect for chilly days.

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I love this plate because it’s my hubbys way of prepping bfast. He makes double eggs and bacon so that way he can grab it and eat it at work. Nice job hubs!

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I always have a tupperware full of cooked broccoli, cauliflower, carrots, parsnips or some other veggie. That way, I can grab it, add seasonings and viola! There’s part of a meal!

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This applesauce is great! It’s Organic (whatever that means anymore) and has no added sugs. Perfect for my little guy.

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Buttah. Again, this goes on most things and in my coffee in the morning (unless there’s heavy cream around). Check out my sweet probiotics I am taking. Exciting, I know.

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Traders for the win with shredded brussels sprouts. They make my life waaay easier! Paired with honey uncured bacon found at Costco!

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Parsnips- my fall fave! Roast them with golden beets and carrots and a little rosemary. Mhmmmm. You’re welcome.

Ok, onto the pantry! 

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There’s never very much in here because a lot of foods are fresh. But what we do have is riveting, so hold onto your hats! The 2nd half of the third shelf is my roommates and the top shelf is my hubby’s. The Justin’s PB and Peet’s decaf coffee on the right are defffffinitely mine! 

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAAll.the.sweet.potatoes (which are technically yams, but whatevs). Boil em, mash em, stick em in a stew (bonus points for you if you can name that movie!)

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I do have some black beans, rice and oats on hand for my hubs. I soak them first and then cook them up for him.

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Ah, winter squash bonanza!! Kabocha, delicata and spaghetti. 
Our snack box which has Lara Bars, freeze dried fruit, nuts and other goodies.

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My oil bar. I looove these oils! So good!! We love using sparkling water as an alternative to soda. 

So, that’s what we have been eating lately! Loving it!! PS, if you are on Periscope, I just joined! Woohoo! Follow me! Kludeman

Fall Curried Lentil & Cauliflower Soup

I loooove fall! 

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What I don’t love is EVERYTHING “Pumpkin Spice”. Ugh. Sooo over it!! At first it was just Sbux with their nasty Pumpkin Spice Latte. Then it exploded into a mess of pumpkin spice products. Cookies, crackers, chips, soups- even dog food (no joke, I’ve seen it!)!! 

Every endcap at Whole Paycheck  Foods is piled high with all the pumpkin crap you could ever want. 

So, you will not be finding any “pumpkin spice” recipes from me this year. If you want to, add literal pumpkin pie spice to whatever you want to flavor. #rantover

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LP’s play land

Anyways, it’s been a while since I’ve blogged. Of course. LP (short for Little Poop) has been soooo grumpy and fussy #teething, #wonderweeks #transition #napstriking #allthefreakingyellingandscreaming. I feel like the world’s worst mom lately because me fuse is short and so is my sleep. It’s a good thing he’s freaking adorable….or else….jk (sorta)

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Lululemon Yin to My Yang Cardi

Ok, back on track. I wanted to share some awesomeness from my kitchen mixed with a little fashion show (what the Paleomg!?). I’ts no secret that I loooooove Lululemon. I don’t care how see thru their pants are or how overly expensive everything is. It is comfortable, cute and totally my style (except for their newer stuff which I hate). I found this amazing cardigan/sweater/jacket at Buffalo Exchange the other day- score!!! I looove it! Now, if the weather would just chill out (literally). 

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My friend Liz gave me this adorable plaid shirt which I have been practically living in. Really, I should probably change my clothes. Hang on….brb. 

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Yes, that’s also a Lulu tank….don’t judge me

Finally, this belt buckle is awesome for two reasons: 1) It has rhinestones! 2) It now easily fits into the last hole which means that being down to one nursing sesh a day has helped me lose weight (never my goal, but always a pleasant surprise). 

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Now, onto the food! I have been posting pictures of what I have been cooking almost everyday on the Rebooted Body Facebook page. If you haven’t joined the tribe, you’re majorly missing out!! It’s a great place to talk health, wellness, psychology and of course, nutrition! The last pic I posted was of this delicious soup that I made up on the fly. #nosoupforyou (sorry, like I said, sleep is in short supply around here). 

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It combines wonderful spices with filling lentils and cauliflower cooked in ultra healthy bone broth.

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Awesome!!! I stored the extra in mason jars and threw it (not literally) in the freezer to save for a rainy day. 

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The other awesome things I have been doing are this simple Naked Apple Butter from Ohsheglows (I always type “ohsheflows”- argh!). If you haven’t visited her vegan blog, DO IT NOW! She is uh-mazing!

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I bought in on half a cow and got some amazing cuts of meat and some incredible femur bones that were suuuuper dense and fatty. This broth tastes like heaven! I love the minerally goodness on the bottom. I feel healthier just looking at it! 

Ok, enough rambling from me. Get in the kitchen and make some soup!!

Fall Curried Lentil and Cauliflower Soup
Yields 3
A warm, mildly spicy soup to bring warmth to your heart and tongue.
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Prep Time
20 min
Cook Time
4 hr
Total Time
4 hr 20 min
Prep Time
20 min
Cook Time
4 hr
Total Time
4 hr 20 min
Ingredients
  1. 3 cups soaked yellow lentils
  2. 6 cups bone broth (or 4 if you want more of a stew consistency)
  3. 1 bag grated carrots (or be cool and grate your own)
  4. 1 sweet onion
  5. 1 head cauliflower, chopped
  6. 5 cloves of garlic, chopped (or use garlic powder like me!)
  7. 1 tsp cinnamon
  8. 1 tbs cumin
  9. 3 tbs curry powder
  10. 1/2 tsp cayenne
  11. 2 bay leaves
  12. 1 tsp salt
  13. 1 tsp black pepper
Souper simple (lol)
  1. Throw everything into the crockpot and cook on high for 4 hours. Discard bay leaves and serve with a dollop of coconut or sour cream.
  2. Cool and store in 3/4 full mason jars in the freezer for best results.
Notes
  1. Don't be afraid to play with spices!! These are suggested amounts. I always go by what smells good.
  2. You can add ham or sausage if you want a "meal soup".
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A Few of My Favorite Things

I love food. 

It has been a source of triumph, control, health, shame and celebration over the past decade. I love the place that I am at with it now. It is something that nourishes my soul and my body. It makes me feel good about my ability to care for myself and my family. 

So, I thought I would share some of my current fave foods (and non-foods) with you! 

(Ps, Please don’t hate on the low photo quality. It’s nighttime and I only have so long to blog before bed.)

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I went to Costco today and totally scored on food and clothes! I got a Kirkland tech top for $5 and this sweet Champion long sleeve tee for $6! Love it!!!

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So, a staple in our house are these snap peas. They are muy delicioso! I love the crunch and the cool texture (sometimes a little too much…if ya know what I mean!).

I love costco for a lot of things like organic peanut butter, Kerrygold butter, coconut oil, blanched almond flour, wild caught canned tuna/salmon and veggies. And diapers. And toilet paper (PS, Charmin is on sale at the Clackamas location, FYI. You’re welcome.).

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I have been spending a lot of time at Natural Grocers lately too. That’s where I discovered this yogurt from Maple Hill Creamery. It.Is.Uh-mazing!!! I love the cream on top and the natural tart flavor. The greek yogurt is to die for!

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They also have a great price on this almond milk that has two ingredients: 1) almonds and 2) water.

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That’s it! If you know me at all, you know this thrills me! It’s $5.99 at Whole Foods and $3.49 at Natural Grocers. I have also seen it at Target for $4 something.

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Ok, I know this isn’t food, but I have totally been diving into One Tree Hill (again). My bestie lives with us (ok, how lucky am I to live with two of my best friends?!?!?) and has the complete series. I guess I am channeling back to simpler times….or I am a cougar who likes to watch teenage boy drama? #teamlucas

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I got this jar of Primal Mayo from Thrive Market courtesy of PaleOMG. I was skeptical at first, but it is amazing!! I love the taste and the ingredients!

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I usually make my own, but this was a nice reprieve from the usual. (PS, dip plantain chips in it- you won’t be sorry!)

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Check out this beef!!! It has heart and liver already ground into it. #allthebenes (ok, I’ll stop now). AND, since organ meat is cheaper than muscle meat, it drops the price to $5/pound! Magic!!!

Ok, last thing. These three things are totally making me laugh these days, which is good cuz there is all kinds of drama up in this household (I’ll tell you more later).

  1. Justin Timberlake and Jimmy Fallon # skit
  2. Jimmy Fallon, Kevin Hart and Will Ferrel lip sync battle
  3. Batdad

What are you totally into right now??

Stop Hating Yourself

 

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These are all words used to describe the physical body. But words somehow have a magical power to seep beneath the skin they describe and permeate the heart that lies within. These words take over your identity and destroy the bond you are meant to have with your body.

This bond that is lost is forged from shared experiences. Your body has done a lot for you and yet how often is it the bane of your existence or something that is in constant need of fixing or changing?

So you set out to change your body into something you deem worthy of love and appreciation. You reduce the amount of food you eat and restrict what little food you do eat. You force yourself to exercise, whether it be at a gym or watching someone with “The Body” on a DVD. You drink more water and tell yourself you’re not hungry.

The first few days aren’t so bad. You notice your stomach is a little flatter and the scale may even tell you that the three numbers you define yourself with have gone down ever so slightly. Then comes day five. You miss “carbs” and you hate the treadmill. But, you believe that this is way to transform your body and fulfill your dream of finally being happy enough with it to bare your arms in a sleeveless shirt.

Your soul begins to mourn your imprisonment and voices fill your head. Cravings surface and your sleep suffers. You can’t take the pressure of perfection and so you “cheat” and have something you “shouldn’t”. You cave. It tastes sooooo good….or does it?

Then, the soul crushing, heart racing, stomach tightening guilt sets in. Why did you fail? Why is it so hard for you? Why are other people “thin” and doing it? Why can’t you stick to _____ program?

You feel so bad that the cycle continues and you bury the feelings of shame with more junk which makes you feel physically sick. You avoid the gym or your trainer for fear that they will condemn you or judge you for your supposed lack of willpower. If only you were stronger….

Now you decide you can finally do it. You feel so bad (and your pants feel so tight) that you decide with this new program you can “get back on track”! And for a few days you do “good”. You do all of your workouts and log the miles on the treadmill (even though your body aches from walking on plastic). You treat yourself with a reward of food which triggers the cravings and on the cycle goes.

 Friends, this is no way to live. The constant comparison to friends, strangers, co-workers- anyone! The endless feeling of not being good enough, fit enough, lean enough- Not Enough. The inner longing for something that is deeper than what you can see in the mirror or touch with your hands. 

A diet will not fulfill you. A program will not save you. A new gym membership will not redeem you. 

It must start with loving yourself as your family, friends and those you strive to please. If you are not happy and loving yourself now, you will not love yourself 20 pounds from now. There has to be a change beneath the surface in your tender and precious heart. A healing has to occur. An outpouring of joy. A peace that passes understanding. A new sense of identity. You are not the choices that you make. 

You were meant for so much more- have you lost yourself in the fast paced world that surrounds you? Are you going through the motions and avoiding the feelings you are afraid to feel? Are you stuck in a trap of constant fixing and loathing? 

If this is you, you need to know there is help. There is a chance to find peace and to celebrate all that is you! If this strikes a chord inside of you and brings a tear to your eye, don’t wait! Reach out! Please do not waste another moment longing for what will only destroy you. 

I am extending a personal invitation to reach out and get some guidance as to what the next steps look like for you. No hidden agenda. No sales pitch. Just support, ideas and resources. 

Hugs, 

Kim

Eating and Moving for a Healthier Life!