As a former dieter, it has been a challenge for me to learn how to set goals that did not involve a size or number. I have written before about celebrating the goals I achieve, not the pounds I do or do not lose. I see a lot of my clients struggle with this as well. We have been trained to set goals that involve a number of calories, grams, pounds, inches or clothing size.
I find these types of goals to be destructive as they are laden with false hope and unrealistic expectations. Sooo many new clients say things like “I want to lose 10-20 pounds in x number of weeks”. I have been in the business long enough to know that not only is it usually impossible (read: hormonal imbalance, gaining muscle, body types, disordered eating, stress, not enough sleep, not enough margin etc) but it is damaging to your relationship with your body, mind and soul.
It breaks my heart that this is what it has come to. That goals revolve around an image of what “health” or “fitness” should look like. A lot of people (not just women) come to me with pictures of what they want to look like and it is hard to have the conversation that starts with adjusting expectations from weight loss to improving health- not only that, but also discovering what health looks like on an individual level too.
So, I wanted to take a minute and share the current goals that I have set to improve my health, performance and lifestyle in hopes that you might be inspired to think of things that you would like to see improve in your own life.
Here are the goals I have set for myself starting today:
-Improve sleep by being in bed by 10, no electronics after 9.
-Improve Digestion by cutting out grains (except quinoa), dairy, white starch, refined sugar, alcohol- at home, and not eating after dinner.
-Exercise-HIIT 2x/week, heavy lifting 1x/week, yoga/stretching 3x/week and achieve these body weight goals*:
Handstand from Dolphin pose
Stand on body ball (this is sooo challenging! I shake like a leaf!!)
Do 20 push ups in a row with good form
Complete 5 chin-ups in a row (2 more to go!!!)
Do 5 pistol squats on each side
Plank on elbows for 5 minutes
-Walk 20 min/day even if it’s raining
*= But also balancing this with grace if I do not feel up to it or other things get in the way (ie: baby getting sick).
What goals have you set for yourself that don’t involve a size or weight??